The Top Four Questions/Comments I Hear Concerning This Pregnancy and/or Baby Two (in India)1. Will you go to your "home place" for delivery? I answer that India is my "home place" now and my children will be born here. Traditionally a woman will return to her parents home/village for the birth of her children. It's perfectly natural for my friends to wonder, if not be concerned, that I will not be doing this.
2. How old is Shane (aka: Why in God's name are you having a second child so close to the first?!!)?, followed quickly by, Oh but this is a good thing, you know. I answer that Shane will be 19 months when Little Star is born. And that my brother and I are only 14 months apart so I always figured my children would be close in age.
3. When your mother comes (IF my mother comes isn't even in question), how long will she stay? I answer that she is coming for about 2 1/2 weeks. Which evokes raised eye-brows, subtle looks of "Well, I never" and "Ohhh." Mom and I joke how totally scandalous it is (the issue is that she isn't staying nearly long enough). But then I mention that Mom has to get back to work and the confusion only increase (Where are her priorities!?).
4. I think you're having a girl. First you have a boy, then you have a girl. It's perfect. I answer that that's what everyone is saying, but we really have no idea. And we'd love another boy and we'd love a girl and either or are perfect.
One thing that culture cannot disagree on or be disjointed about. The day will be magical. The baby precious. For a moment...................time will pause. And though it all will be different from the first birth, it will be so very much the same. The Same Magical.
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This is gorgeous, on so many levels. Thanks Libs.
Okay so I agree with number 2. Although at least you wont have to reintroduce diapers into your home:)
And I agree with the miracle part, but I still want you to have a boy, Do you know how many girls are in my circle of friends, my girls have no hope for husbands, although that might be a good thing:). Love you guys and miss you and can't wait to hear about the new baby's arrival.
Beautiful perspectives :).
Oh, and where are you? I'm in Kolkata, and completely thrilled to know you're in my country! I've read your comments on Catherine's blog, and this time hopped over from her Shared Posts link.
I'll be dropping by more often!
You have been in our thoughts and prayers! Healthy happy baby!!!
Having them close together is a little stressful, but so rewarding! I wish we were living back there for a multitude of reasons, but one selfish reason is for the help!!!!! Can't wait to hear about your little one. Hope you have as wonderful of an experience as you did last time.
LOL! This post might have been written by me. people think i am nuts because our kids are 22 months apart (my brother and i are 14 months apart)
and yes - the world was scandalised when my mother visited for 8 days after i delivered the second one and left. what kind of indian mother does that? a bad one obviously!
i have some good friends in hyd who are also expecting. if you need help with finding baby stuff etc- do feel free to mail me... all the best!
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Libs - I have to admit when I opened this blog entry seeing the picture I thought you went into early labor and your baby had arrived. My heart pitter pattered.
I am happy little baby is still growing inside and that you continue to be healthy. I love you dearly and am looking forward to the magic :) Hugs and kisses
I thought the same thing as Justine! =)
What a fun post to read...you are such a good writer. I will enjoy checking back on here until we hear the exciting news that Baby #2 has arrived! Enjoy all your precious moments with little Shane until then.
From a fellow mommy of a book-loving-boy,
Amy Hickman
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